tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2481549185308465110.post2363534999170123557..comments2024-03-08T04:06:20.301-05:00Comments on TrustMovies: Chico Colvard's moving shocker FAMILY AFFAIR is exactly that -- and in so many surprising ways TrustMovieshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01130460547029155342noreply@blogger.comBlogger23125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2481549185308465110.post-75250992892071924692016-03-11T19:45:31.341-05:002016-03-11T19:45:31.341-05:00Wow, Tanya: Thanks for your comments, and what a h...Wow, Tanya: Thanks for your comments, and what a history you have! I am glad you got away from your family -- and married a Dutchman! (I am sure that there are also predatory Dutch males, but fortunately neither your hubby nor I are among them.) Good luck to you, and I hope that Chico Colvard, the director of FAMILY AFFAIR will be able to read and appreciate your comments, too. <br />Best wishes!TrustMovieshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01130460547029155342noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2481549185308465110.post-53229287658044414752016-03-11T15:51:47.549-05:002016-03-11T15:51:47.549-05:00By the way my wonderful husband is Dutch I see tha...By the way my wonderful husband is Dutch I see that you too are Dutch.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04576922523702359494noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2481549185308465110.post-82929120083822191542016-03-11T15:50:51.135-05:002016-03-11T15:50:51.135-05:00This dysfunctional behavior is not uncommon. I fee...This dysfunctional behavior is not uncommon. I feel like the brother who made this documentary although I am female. My father as an officer in the military, there are 6 girls in the family. We lived in different parts of Europe. We are also African American, and the horror of what had happened to my 3 older sisters did not get revealed until many years later while we lived here in the United States. <br /><br />I am the midde child and was closest to my father, but he never harmed me in any way, as a matter of fact he taught me how to protect myself, and how to behave? I did not find out about his raping my older sisters until I was 33 years of age I am 46 years of age now. I unfortunately married a predator because I married a man that I believed to be like the "loving" man that was shown to me at home, but I did in fact marry someone who was like my father a Sociopath.<br /><br />However, my second oldest sister revealed from a mental institution that she had been raped by him and that it happened when she was nine years old, it was than that I understood why I had married the abusive man that I did, and I got way I have been away for 15 years now, and I also removed myself from my parents and others sibling who still support him to this day, maybe its Stockholm syndrome, but I'm free of them and live a beautiful life with a loving man. I stay away from predatory people and because of what I learned I am a Forensic Psychology Major.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04576922523702359494noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2481549185308465110.post-89864653240607669322015-03-22T17:16:56.390-04:002015-03-22T17:16:56.390-04:00Thanks, Anon, for posting (regarding Connie Carty&...Thanks, Anon, for posting (regarding Connie Carty's earlier post). I understand what you are saying, and I tend -- from what we see in the film, at least -- to agree with you. It does seem as though the kids' mom too easily abandoned them to their abusive dad. I do wonder what their mother would say about all of this now. Every documentary has a number of viewpoints to be taken into consideration, although we don't always learn enough about these to be able to understand and/or judge properly.TrustMovieshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01130460547029155342noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2481549185308465110.post-70947777334195306312015-03-22T11:48:20.682-04:002015-03-22T11:48:20.682-04:00I do not see anything healthy about icing out ones...I do not see anything healthy about icing out ones own children who have suffered years of Tramatic abuse. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2481549185308465110.post-65738085420646280922014-12-23T12:24:20.807-05:002014-12-23T12:24:20.807-05:00Thanks for commenting, Lex54. It may be that the s...Thanks for commenting, Lex54. It may be that the sisters feel that they are, in some way, actually healing the situation by their decision and behavior. It is difficult to know, but I can't blame you for feeling baffled. <br /><br />This really is a movie that cries out for more follow-up and some updating. Maybe we'll get it eventually. Are you out there and listening, I hope, Mr. Colvard?TrustMovieshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01130460547029155342noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2481549185308465110.post-87117070473514230602014-12-23T00:58:53.661-05:002014-12-23T00:58:53.661-05:00I watched this documentary for the second time on ...I watched this documentary for the second time on Netflix tonight. I was left just as baffled and frankly, angry that these sisters have not sought healing for themselves!! Their mother abandoned them and wrote a nasty letter essentially blaming them for staying. They were kids with no recourse! She deserves just as much punishment as that mentally dysfunctional and evil specimen that raped his daughters and sees himself as having done a good job in attempting to rear them. Lord help us all for any woman who would even look twice at this demon! To see that another woman with no self esteem attached herself to him. Obviously she was poor and in need of food and shelter!! I just can't wrap my head around why this monster was allowed back into the lives of his daughters. They need major help!!!Lex54https://www.blogger.com/profile/07629496627716119959noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2481549185308465110.post-56442008661267455692014-12-10T17:23:53.336-05:002014-12-10T17:23:53.336-05:00Hi, Anon (I'm not sure if any of the above ano...Hi, Anon (I'm not sure if any of the above anonymous tags belong to the same person)--<br /><br />Your comment is unsettling because I suspect some viewers will not have delved deep enough into the whole situation to realize that this seems to be what is happening here. Though we have no definitive evidence on this question, unless we know that the sisters are not putting their own children in harm's way -- are they monitoring their dad and his behavior when with his grandkids? -- this leaves us with a rather skeevy feeling about the whole mess.<br /><br />Whew, this movie keeps uncovering layer after layer of possibilities....TrustMovieshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01130460547029155342noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2481549185308465110.post-262171157781234142014-12-10T16:25:19.094-05:002014-12-10T16:25:19.094-05:00I believe in forgiveness but to continue to be aro...I believe in forgiveness but to continue to be around a man who abused me physically and sexually, and to feel comfortable enough to have my young children around this man is what baffles me. I guess as a mother I will never understand putting my children in dangers way and I'm speaking in terms of the sisters and their kids.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2481549185308465110.post-66414285006590630882014-12-08T14:41:02.128-05:002014-12-08T14:41:02.128-05:00The father is, to some extent anyway, a different ...The father is, to some extent anyway, a different man now from who he was when these events occurred. But you are so right, Anonymous, when you say that he must admit to what he did. From the looks of things, however, this guy never will.TrustMovieshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01130460547029155342noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2481549185308465110.post-90777153484828188812014-12-08T00:12:39.584-05:002014-12-08T00:12:39.584-05:00I saw the film an was left with so many unanswered...I saw the film an was left with so many unanswered questions! When Chico finally got the nerve to ask his father why he did such terrible things, he never said what horrible things he meant the father went off on blaming others who had hurt his people . He said how he had made wrong decisions in war time but never addressed any of the things he had done to his own children. I was left waiting for him to admit what he had done! He never did. This man acted like he did nothing wrong to his family or he did not understand the question! How very sad for his daughters. He raped their souls! Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2481549185308465110.post-17312840596359199852014-11-25T13:08:03.391-05:002014-11-25T13:08:03.391-05:00Thanks for posting, Ann, and good luck with your p...Thanks for posting, Ann, and good luck with your paper. <br /><br />Your instructor is right, I think, in that it is difficult not to see things from several asides, once you've viewed this film -- even if, finally, you pretty much have to come down against what the father did. Part of the movie's great strength is that is makes you see and think about things like family, crime, love, and forgiveness a little differently and perhaps more strongly than you did prior to watching FAMILY AFFAIR.TrustMovieshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01130460547029155342noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2481549185308465110.post-9738888152340544912014-11-25T12:22:14.623-05:002014-11-25T12:22:14.623-05:00I am a student in a college where it's located...I am a student in a college where it's located in Irving, Tx. I remember seeing the film in my own room at first. It's very sad on what the Colvard siblings went through! I'm an emotional type of person whether I experienced stuff like that or not.<br />In my English 1301, I saw it again. I have to do an argument presentation on Family Affair. It's hard to be on either side of an argument but thankfully, my instructor said that no one cannot be serious about it because the film IS a touchy subject! The argument choices are: 1)should the father be forgiven or not, 2) what was Chico's intent of his film,...I forgot the other 3 choices. This film is an educational thing to watch!Ann Lopezhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15182878593972775305noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2481549185308465110.post-45861436172025651482014-09-05T12:54:57.571-04:002014-09-05T12:54:57.571-04:00Thanks for your comment above, Anonymous, but I am...Thanks for your comment above, Anonymous, but I am not at all certain that Chico Colvard, the filmmaker, has even seen or read my blog. <br /><br />Chico, if you have read or are reading, you might want to let some of your fans out there know how they might reach you for updates and/or questions.TrustMovieshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01130460547029155342noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2481549185308465110.post-37343051854511539412014-09-05T09:29:29.179-04:002014-09-05T09:29:29.179-04:00Please ask Mr. Colvard to frequently update. I am ...Please ask Mr. Colvard to frequently update. I am an abuse survivor and this story was so close to my own. Difference being, I haven't been able to get past it. This film was very enlightening. <br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2481549185308465110.post-83027839790248125532014-08-10T08:29:01.248-04:002014-08-10T08:29:01.248-04:00Thanks for posting, Debiro1. And I am sorry that y...Thanks for posting, Debiro1. And I am sorry that you, too, had to put up with a bad dad. But, as they say, everything is relative, right?TrustMovieshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01130460547029155342noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2481549185308465110.post-35988870551724463262014-08-10T01:17:29.511-04:002014-08-10T01:17:29.511-04:00After seeing this, my own father doesn't seem ...After seeing this, my own father doesn't seem so bad anymore.debiro1https://www.blogger.com/profile/14669776988164978053noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2481549185308465110.post-44126902838859872412014-08-06T14:04:59.202-04:002014-08-06T14:04:59.202-04:00Thanks for commenting, Connie. What you say makes...Thanks for commenting, Connie. What you say makes me want to take a look at this film again. (It's been ten months since I viewed it.) When incest or abuse begins at a fairly young age, the victim -- on some level, at least -- is often captured psychologically forever. Which is one reason the daughters may not have wanted to cut ties.TrustMovieshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01130460547029155342noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2481549185308465110.post-33699556586948673242014-08-06T13:38:06.516-04:002014-08-06T13:38:06.516-04:00I watched this last night and was completely surpr...I watched this last night and was completely surprised Chico didn't share ( or show ) more about his visit w his mother and her explanation about leaving. She seems to me the one with the healthiest approach to this whole awful situation. Those tragic girls are still tangled up w a sick man and the mother recognized they didn't want to be saved, so she saved herselfAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05312068328922353588noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2481549185308465110.post-45647560567127886562014-06-14T23:48:45.857-04:002014-06-14T23:48:45.857-04:00Thanks for the comment, Anon. But I am not sure th...Thanks for the comment, Anon. But I am not sure that any of us -- outside of the actual family members shown -- can say with certainty that some sort of forgiveness is not part of this very strange picture. But it also must be forgiveness mixed with so much else! Poisonous and toxic is also part of the deal, as you say, as is America's still rampant racism that corrupts all it touches.TrustMovieshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01130460547029155342noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2481549185308465110.post-68895181463072389552014-06-14T23:29:30.695-04:002014-06-14T23:29:30.695-04:00Absolutely appalling and unbelievable that people ...Absolutely appalling and unbelievable that people believe it iis forgiveness that has allowed the abused daughters to spend time with the father. It is lack of healing, understanding the dynamics of abuse that is going on here. This is a poisonous and toxic relationship. I am so desperately saddened to see this and see more children exposed to this dysfunction.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2481549185308465110.post-72491102858818302932014-05-09T00:02:48.883-04:002014-05-09T00:02:48.883-04:00Thanks for commenting, Anonymous. And, yes, this i...Thanks for commenting, Anonymous. And, yes, this is a shocking movie. But even more shocking than what was done to the children is their eventual response to it. This is a film that, the deeper you explore, the stranger it gets. Nothing, it seems, is unforgiveable or can't be worked around....TrustMovieshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01130460547029155342noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2481549185308465110.post-16731435167535953212014-05-08T14:46:22.928-04:002014-05-08T14:46:22.928-04:00I watched this on netflix with my husband last nig...I watched this on netflix with my husband last night. I was horrified. Its so sad that people do this to children. I mean he was a tipple threat. He beat them nentally and physically in addition to sexual assault. He was supposed to create a family to protect not to destroy. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com